How Unhealthy Relationships Affect Children - Ibra Aamir

Updated: May 18, 2021

Drunk in their own sorrows, parents forget how their verbal and physical abuse towards each other impacts their children. Family is regarded as the support system of a human being, but we turn a blind eye to the dark side of the family that pulverizes the lives of children and sows the seeds of suicidal contemplation in their minds.


While some students anticipate returning home following a tiring day at school, other children desperately wish that school would never end so they wouldn’t have to go home to a shower of abuses and curses. They see school as a refuge from their problems. When two people rush into divorce or separation, they do not take the feelings of their child into account and what scars this rushed act will leave on the child’s heart.


Parental conflict can have toxic effects on a child. The child can succumb to anxiety, depression, unusual fears, and disturbed sleep. This can prompt deteriorating health and low performance at school. Scientific studies show that a child’s brain develops differently if they are yelled at. The human brain processes negative events more quickly than positive ones. The shrill tone and the dead look in the eyes of the parents can traumatize the child. Furthermore, constant exposure to fights can expand the odds of anxiety and panic attacks among children because fear has been drilled in their minds. Hence, when a child witnesses unhealthy relationships in the family, the development of his brain is adversely impacted.




Childhood wounds can lead to challenges in adulthood. The child can transform into an abuser, perhaps get addicted to intoxicating substances. The aggressive behavior witnessed in the family can be passed onto the offspring that will lead the child to treat their family in a harsh way when they grow up, just the way they learned from their parents. From what they observe in their childhood, they implement it in their adulthood. Seeing their family bark at each other, the child would think that this is the way to deal with every problem and hence will mirror this aggressive behavior in the future. Yelling at or in front of your child is unhealthy communication.