Raising Children Right - Maryam Salman

“You cannot raise your children the way your parents raised you, because your parents raised you for a world that no longer exists.”

Everyone desires a child that is kind, confident, brave and a successful human being in general, but are we paying enough attention to our child's upbringing? Are we living up to the needs of a modern parent? The term ‘Modern Parent’ is often misinterpreted by many. Some people may believe that it means allowing a kid to practice anything they like. Well, if you think that, you are highly mistaken! This term refers to a parent that makes perfect use of all the modern technology to recruit their youngsters in a manner that perfectly blends in with today's world.

The best gift we can pass on to our offspring is their proper upbringing. Children are like treasures; they are the ones who can either fix the world or break it, which is why the upbringing of a person is the most important phase of life. It is the stage where human beings start to recognize the world, and it is thus important that they learn the right way to live here.

At the primeval stages of life, parents often dismiss their children's unacceptable behaviour as childish. Parents of today's era should understand that at that very innocent age, they sow the seeds of misconduct. The first seven years of their child’s lives are the most influential, yet are considered the least important. Children are affected the most by their surroundings, particularly their parents.

In communities like Pakistan, there are clearly defined boundaries of raising a boy and a girl differently. Unwittingly, we teach them gender segregation at a very tender age when they are unaware of their own individuality. You may have heard mothers saying to their children “Boys don't cry”. Statements like these sow the seeds of hatred for the other gender. Boys are often given toys like cars and other construction items while girls are engaged in kitchen sets and dolls. At that age, youngsters acquire a defined idea of the Dos and Don'ts in life. These boys grow up to become men that find it ridiculous to work alongside the women of the family. Helping your wife is considered a stigma these days and the men who do so are degraded and called names like 'simps'.

Bringing up a child in the right way means that you produce a whole generation that follows the right path. We often criticize lads roaming around wasting time, but we ignore the cause behind it. Their upbringing is what needs to be changed.

Many parents ignore their children in their early childhood, and these toddlers are often left with the maidens and servants and all of these acts of negligence reflect the personality of the children later in their lives.