Assume that you are the most beautiful person on Earth. You are capable of drawing attention to yourself. You fascinate individuals around you effortlessly. However, none of them enjoy your presence. Or maybe you are a person with average looks but have a beautiful soul that attracts other people. Whatever you do and say entices them. They love being around you and want to spend more time with you.
Which would boost your confidence more? What allows people to get along with a person and speak their heart out?
Well, the latter, I presume. Some people believe that beauty contributes to building confidence, and I agree with them to an extent. I believe that beauty does boost confidence. However, it is not necessarily physical beauty. I would say that inner beauty is what brings confidence in oneself as people tend to be drawn towards the beauty of one’s soul, eventually.
This suggests that we should work on our inner beauty, along with our outer beauty.
Anything gained through material things dissipates sooner or later, but what is gained from spiritual means lasts longer. You can build lasting bonds with other people. These bonds will be pure and free from any false motives. Doing so will gather true friends and colleagues who will help you achieve every possible success. You will be motivated enough to believe in the phrase ‘Quo Non-Ascendam’ which means ‘To what heights can I not rise.’
There are several examples of people who do not possess any form of physical beauty, yet they are confident. For Example, Nicholas James Vujicic, an Australian American Christian motivational speaker born with tetra-amelia syndrome, a rare disorder characterized by the absence of upper and lower limbs. Elizabeth Anne Velásquez is an American motivational speaker born with a rare congenital disease called Marfanoid–progeroid–lipodystrophy syndrome. It prevents her from accumulating body fat and gaining weight.
Even though they are not physically attractive, they teach others the true sense of living.
Be fancied by the world, not for how you look but for who you are from the inside.
To be beautiful from the inside is what makes us human. Such humans are not only confident, but they also motivate others. They teach others to be confident despite their appearance and what others think of them.
One should focus on his personality, which is the key to achieving high confidence. Soul beauty is eternal. Now ask yourself if you would get a chance to have someone beautiful deep inside for eternity, or another person who is drop-dead gorgeous for a finite time with no inner beauty. Who would you prefer to be part of your life? Of course, you would opt for the former. So this should be the sound basis for a person’s confidence; inner beauty is what makes us confident, not outer beauty.
However, there are ways to elevate your inner beauty. A few of them are:
Be kind and gentle with others.
Respect and treat every human being as you want yourself to be treated.
Be considerate and empathetic towards others and try to connect yourself to them.
Don’t try to change yourself to fit into a social circle.
Be sure to give compliments and sweet smiles to people around you.
All of this elevates your inner beauty and makes people trust you. It boosts confidence, as well. The fact is that inner beauty is all that matters. But, a few aspects of your outer appearance also aids in leveling up your confidence. You can achieve it by:
Wearing clean and elegant clothes.
Wear perfume that smells good.
Nicely done hair might also help to create an attractive look, which not only makes you look good but also helps to boost your confidence to another level.
You might have heard the famous saying, “Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder”, but I say that beauty lies within yourself. You might not know what treasures you hold within yourself, yet you can discover them by unveiling your hidden beauty of the soul.
In my opinion, every soul is unique and beautiful in itself. So we should focus more on polishing ourselves from the inside rather than the outside.
Laiba Zaman is an in-house writer at Perspective.