Treat Yourself Kindly- The Healthy Relationship You Actually Need

We all know the phrase, “You can never truly love someone else until you love yourself first”.

However, nobody ever elaborates on what self-love really is. It isn’t a self obsession or simple narcissism. People often mistake self-love for being selfish but it only involves putting your own needs first. It is the understanding of being valued and feeling good enough.


Aera is 17 years old. She hates looking in the mirror because it shows her a person who does not fit the local beauty standards. She cries for hours on end wishing that she was thinner and that her shoulders were not so wide. She felt like a giant considering her broader build.

All she saw in the mirror was her exterior looks. She failed to look beyond those lenses crafted by society to see herself as what she really was. She didn’t understand that her body’s function was not to look pleasing,

Guilt consumes her as she realizes everything that she forgot to thank.

Her arms:

They grab objects and help carry out tasks. They embrace others in a hug. They provided the comfort and safety that many people have needed before. Her hands can hold the hands of others, as she guides them through bustling streets.

Her legs:

They carried her from place to place. They never faltered, not even in the worst moments when Aera felt as if her legs would give out from her trembling. They helped her walk away from situations that were better to avoid.

The ‘fat’ on her stomach and body:

It protected her organs. It kept her warm on cold winter nights.